Beauty and Depression: The Hidden Curse
Posted on December 13 2019
Everyday, a dangerous social disorder lingers in our mist. It masks itself easily under social media smiles - false depictions of uploaded happiness, and in marked-up pictures of perfectly applied makeup products.
All over America millions of young women suffer from depression, making it one of the most common mental disorders in the country. Some don't even know what's happening to them because being depressed doesn’t mean that you lie in bed all day and cry. The disorder is so insidious, it could linger for years without you having a clue that you suffer from it at all, in-fact, in some families it is accepted as normal behavior.
Depression is more than just feeling sad. Everyone feels upset or unmotivated from time to time, but depression is more serious. It is a mood disorder characterized by prolonged feelings of sadness and loss of interest in daily activities. If these symptoms persist for a period of at least two weeks, it is considered a depressive episode.
To top this off, today's young women exist in the digital age, where the media via social media spends billions of dollars advertising beauty campaigns to promote the sale of makeup and skin care products. Add to this, the pressure of needing to look beautiful from social media influencers, television commercials and fashion magazines, singing stars, an movie actors, It's no wonder they live in a current state of obession with beauty.
The beauty obsession
Young teenage girls are exposed to thousands of commercial beauty ads a year. Companies spend $18.5 billion a year marketing beauty products to young women and teens, hey I admit to being a small part of the practice. And the media, like it or not, is the dominant tool for transmitting and reinforcing cultural beliefs and values premediated by our western civilization, mainly the industries that profit from selling beauty.
The need to be beautiful isn't just happening among girls in America, throughout the world, girls are going to the extreme beauty routines because websites, magazines, movies and books, say you're unattractive and you need the look we're selling. "British beauty blogger Alice Thomas says her depression led to major insecurities about her looks, which is why her beauty routine came to mean so much to her. She says that doing her makeup each day made it feel as though it was a fresh slate, a new beginning and a way to put herself together even if everything else seemed impossible, "say Helen Wallace in GoodHousekeeping.
The open markets in countries like Thialand, India, and Africa are flooded with tons of beauty products to help women resemble the “Western woman.” With the goal of becoming beautiful, young women are altering their bodies through plastic surgery, tummy tucks, botox injections, breast augmentation and rhinoplasty are all popular procedures to improve one’s appearance. Something has to change, what is needed is the ability of our girls to build positive self-image of themselves.
What is positive self-image
A positive self-image is having a good view of yourself; for example: Seeing yourself as an attractive and desirable person. Having an image of yourself as a smart and intelligent person. Seeing a happy, healthy person when you look in the mirror.
At Claire Noir Beauty, we believe in makeup, but first we believe in building the inner beauty that comes from positive self-image. Every woman regardless of your skin color, hair texture, lip or breast size, having found inner beauty, then and only then should placed makeup outwardly to make them look and feel beautiful.
Self-image is a product of learning. Early childhood influences help, such as taught to us by parents and caregivers, but what if we didn't have those positive role models in our lives. Our experiences may have come from people that didn't know how to reenforce good positive images and self-esteem. We may have lived in a world where we were constantly told we were too fat, too dark, too skinny, too ugly. And the images and messages we receive only reinforced what we negatively thought and felt about ourselves. Based on past experiences, the image we see in the mirror today may be a real or distorted view of who we really are and based on this view, we develop either a positive or a negative self-image. The strengths and weaknesses we have adopted affect how we behave today.
By building a positive self-image, we recognize and own our assets and potentials while being realistic about our liabilities and limitations. With a negative self-image, we focus on our faults and weaknesses, distorting failure and imperfections, thereby looking for love in all the wrong places and people.
Creating a positive self-image?
Improving your self-image, like improving any skill, takes time and practice. Developing good self-esteem involves encouraging a positive (but realistic) attitude toward yourself and the world around you and appreciating your worth, while at the same time behaving responsibly towards others. Self-esteem isn't self-absorption; it's self-respect.
By working from the inside out (focusing on changing your own way of thinking before changing the circumstances around you), you can build your self-esteem. The goal of this positive thinking is to give yourself a more positive self-concept, while seeing yourself honestly and accepting yourself, and removing the internal barriers that can keep you from doing your best.
Specific steps to develop a positive self-image
- Avoid exaggerations. Correct your inner voice when it exaggerates, specifically when it exaggerates the negative. Try to keep away from thinking in severe phrases ("I usually make that mistake" or "I'll never get that promotion.")
- Control negative thoughts. Sometimes putting a give up on negative thinking is as handy as that. The next time you begin giving your self an interior browbeating, inform yourself to "stop it!" If you noticed a character yelling insults at some other person, you would possibly inform them to stop. Why do you take delivery of that conduct from yourself?
- Accentuate the positive. Instead of focusing on what you assume are your terrible qualities, accentuate your strengths and assets. Maybe you didn't ace the take a look at you have been analyzing for, however perhaps your hard work and perseverance led to a higher grade than you would have had. Maybe you felt anxious and self-conscious when giving a presentation at work, but maybe your boss and coworkers respected you for getting up and trying.
- Accept flaws and being human. Maybe you did get anxious and blow that presentation at work - so what? Talk to your boss about what went wrong, strive to address the error in the future, and move on. All human beings have flaws and make mistakes. Your boss, coworkers, friends, family, postman, congressman, and social media influencers all have made mistakes. They've forgiven themselves; so can you.
- Accept imperfections. Perfection is a excessive mark to aim for -- you do not want to start there. Make being your best self - your ideal -- how much better can you realistically do? Focus on what you have gained and how you can use it in the future. Avoid focusing on what wasn't completed or 'should have' been accomplished differently. Allow your self to make mistakes and then forgive yourself. Try laughing rather of criticizing yourself.
- Don't bully yourself! "Should have, would have ... " Try not to continuously 2d rate yourself, criticize yourself for what you "should have" carried out better, or expect too much from yourself. Don't put requirements on your self that you would not require from others. It's nice to desire to do well, however expecting yourself to be perfect (which is impossible) and then punishing your self when you fail is a plain cray-cray.
- Replace criticism with encouragement. Instead of nagging or focusing on the worst (in yourself and others), exchange your criticism with encouragement. Give constructive criticism instead of being crucial ("maybe if I tried to do ____ next time, it would be even better" as an alternative for "I didn't do that right.") Compliment yourself and those around you on what you have completed ("well, we may not have achieved everything, however we did a quite great job with what we did accomplished".)
- Don't feel guilty about things you can't control. You are not the blame each and every time something goes wrong or someone has a problem. Apologizing for matters and accepting blame can be high quality character, if you are in the wrong. But you shouldn't feel responsible for all issues or feel you are to blame every time anyone is upset.
- Don't feel accountable for everything. Just as everything is not your fault, not the whole lot is your responsibility. It's okay to be helpful, however don't feel the need to be all matters (and do all things) for all people. This is taking an awful lot of a burden on yourself AND limiting those around you. Let others be responsible for themselves and their decisions -- you shouldn't feel accountable for their happiness.
- Do feel accountable for your feelings. Just as you can not "make" other human beings happy, don't count on others to "make" you feel joyful or good about yourself. In the same way, they mustn't make you feel guilty or terrible about yourself. You create your personal feelings and make your very own decisions. People and certain events might have an affect on your emotions, but they can not dictate them.
- Treat yourself kindly. People often treat themselves worst than they would treat others. Do you do that, criticize your self with terms like "I'm stupid" "ugly" or "loser"? Would you use these phrases to describe a friend?Remind yourself that things are going better than you think they are -- don't wait to hear it from others.
- Give yourself a break. You do not want to be a people pleaser - trying to be all things to everyone or please everyone. Give yourself permission to determine you are doing the first-rate you can. Remind your self when you are doing matters well -- don't wait to hear it from anyone else.
- Choose the optimism. You can pick out how to interpret remarks and events, so try for the more positive interpretations. If anyone says, "You look well today," do not ask your self "Did I look sick yesterday?" Accept compliments graciously (don't ask yourself why you have not been complemented on some thing else or why they haven't complemented you before.) Look at temporary setbacks as opportunities for growth.
- Forgive and forget. Try not to hold on to painful memories and horrific feelings - this is a surefire way to inspire terrible thoughts and terrible moods. Your past can manage you if you do not control it. If you can, forgive previous wrongs and cross on. (Don't forget that forgiving your self is an necessary section of this process, too!) If you have a tough time forgiving or forgetting, think about speaking thru your thoughts with a true friend or counselor, but try now not to dwell. It's vital to work via things, but you can't let the previous decide your future.
- Focus on what you can do today. Avoid "I can't" type thinking. If you say something enough, you may start to believe it, so think positive, not negative. Don't be afraid to seek help in accomplishing things, but remind yourself that you don't need approval from others to recognize your accomplishments. Focus on what you're able to do. Remind yourself of all your capabilities and positive qualities.
- Buy makeup that's natural and makes you look and feel better. There's nothing wrong with wearing makeup to enhance your beauty, in-fact studies show "Slathering on mascara, lipstick, or blush doesn't just increase how pleased a woman can feel about her appearance. Wearing makeup can significantly alter others' perceptions of a woman's personality. Finding the best makeup can help you on your way.