Mom-I'm 8 teen You Can't Tell Me Naw
Posted on December 12 2019
You've waited for this moment ever since you were pre-teen, and now you are in the final stretch of your teenage years. Yes, by legal standards you are considered an adult, but in many ways you still depend on parents for a roof over your head, a phone, internet and everything else . You've been rebelling just before Thirteen, sometimes subtle, at othertimes blatant. Your hormones had been increasingly changing and calling for independence. Your head is screaming "I can't wait to be on my own or I don't have to listen to my mother anymore - I'm a grown woman."
At 18, you're still deciding who you are and what you want to be. Yes, you've conquered the sex thing responsibly, but it wasn't worth all the hype, and you're hoping college will provide a better experience. Guess what - Naw - The males you'll meet are the same High School immature boys - now they're just wrapped in collegiate apparel.
You are what we call an emerging adult, transitioning from a teen to young adult womanhood. It's a very trying time. All the responsibilties and values you learned up until this point are coming into play such as:
- Heath & safety
- Complete tasks efficiently
- Personal hygiene
- Socially responsibility
- Understanding sexual activity
- Handling peer pressure
- Working well with others
- Holding a job
- Earning and spending money wisely
You push on, trying on different versions of your life, all at once. Now you focused on yourself and becoming aware of the big world out there, and here are three areas you need to focus on:
The world revolves around you. In fact, you have a “social audience,” be it Snap Chat, Instagram, Tik Tok, etc., you have a group of followers who only exists to constantly watch and judge your every move. Now, if you're a personality like Kim Kardashian, you probably have sound basis here, but if you're like most of us, this belief can give rise from the larger concept of adolescent egocentrism, that teens think the world revolves around them and that everyone is paying attention to how they look and what they do. This is a normal phase of social development in teens, which may mean you're not quite out of the teen world yet..
Another important area you're transitioning from teen to womanhood is your emotions. You can also feel overwhelmed by the emotional and physical changes they are going through during these years. If you haven't already, you will need to become more skilled in understanding your emotions. Instead of just reacting like little kids do, we can identify what we feel and put it into words. With time and practice, we get better at knowing what we are feeling and why. This skill is called emotional awareness.
Emotional awareness helps us know what we need and want (or don't want!). It helps us build better relationships. That's because being aware of our emotions can help us talk about feelings more clearly, avoid or resolve conflicts better, and move past difficult feelings more easily.
Emotional awareness is the first step toward building emotional intelligence, a skill that can help you succeed in all areas of life.
Health & Safety
You're about to live on your own in either a college dorm, off-campus apartment, or that bedroom for rent you've been spying. Here's that thing, up and until now safety has largely been provided by your parents, you know the security cameras and alarm system, the dog or the project tenant association. Home is safe, but you're not in Kansas anymore Dorothy. You need a system to help you feel secure, and the 21 Life Saving Safety Tip For Young Women is a great place to start.